You don’t ever have to feel guilty about REMOVING TOXIC PEOPLE FROM YOUR LIFE. It doesn’t matter whether someone is a relative, romantic interest, childhood friend or a new aquaintance. You don’t have to make room for people who cause you pain or make you feel small. It’s one thing if a person owns up to their behavior and makes effort to change. But if a person disregards your feelings, ignore your boundaries and “continues” to treat you in a harmful way, they need to go. – DANIELLE KOEPE

Can I share something with you? Something honest? Something…real?

One of the downsides of being unapologetically myself, is that I’m a bit headstrong and extremely decisive. I’ve always had things under control with my to-do lists, planners and bullet journals. This applies to everything. This shocks people, it intimidates people and what people don’t understand, scares them and they will try everything to bring you down. But here’s the thing… “A truly strong person does not need the approval of others any more than a lion needs the approval of sheep”

In everyone’s life, there will always be friends who resist, threaten and sabotage the possibility of self-improvement. And guess what, cutting (✂) these toxic friends out from your life doesn’t mean you hate them, it simply means you respect yourself. NOT EVERYONE IS MEANT TO STAY!!!

I have personally experienced the impact of being around a negative and positive environment and “Oh” the effect is tremendous. I had “friends” who would belittle my exam anxiety, friends who would make me feel guilty over choosing studying over hanging out with them, friends who would sabotage my studying by feeding me false advice from lecturers, friends who would suddenly stop talking to me one week before an exam, every time.

Associate yourself with friends of good quality – for it is better to be alone than in bad company. Don’t let people question your values or make you prove your worth. As the Dalai Lama said: “In the practice of tolerance, one’s enemy is the best teacher” Every friendship even the negative ones, should teach us something that helps us to be better people going forward. LIVE YOUR TRUTH, AND SMILE. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.❤

I’m sharing this for everyone who needs to hear this!!!


221 thoughts on “LIVE YOUR TRUTH, AND SMILE!

  1. Great thoughts and post. Those of us who are detail oriented and organized will never understand how some people simply shuffle through their lives and them seem surprised when disaster befalls them. As organized people, we want to help, but sooner or later have to come to the conclusion that you can’t fix stupid.

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  2. I love this post, I’ve been thinking about this a lot myself and have been through similar things with friends and family and honestly it’s exhausting! I think its also a thing about perceptions and expectations we place onto other people to always see the kind of people we truly are and to always respect us and act accordingly.

    I’ve been shifting my focus onto people with similar interests and lifestyles, and trying not to waste my time on people who will ultimately let me down or make me feel ways about myself that just aren’t true!

    Always great to stop by and catch up on your blogs. Happy Monday!

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  3. I appreciate this post, thanks for sharing! I’m sorry you had to experience being stuck in those friendships, I understand. I have been going through those negative friendships too, but recently I kind of managed to get myself out of one. I had to give myself a break too, and as you know, negativity drains you, affects you, and can really be a mood changer! But part of me still wishes that that person would realize and acknowledge that she’s the one driving everybody away, yet, she thinks everybody left her. We were all there for her, but we can only handle so much, you know? Sooner or later, we get so sick of being around her and also her bad attitudes here and there and selfishness really drive us all away. I just really wish she would see that problem, and I have kept her at arm’s length, so I have been the one who hasn’t completely left her. Surely, I don’t need her in my life, and I know Nobody can make anyone see anything, but I am currently helpless in this. It is like she is blind to her situation. Sorry, this is a long comment, but what do you suggest?

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    1. Hi, Candace😊 Thank you for the comment! I’m no expert in this, but here’s my two cents: It’s not always easy to know where you stand in friendship. If you truly feel, even after all your efforts, that your life would be happier and more peaceful place without a particular person in it, then you got to do what’s best for you. Remember if you can’t change the people around you, then change the people you choose to be around. Wish them well, but make a clean slate. Life’s too short. God bless.💕


  4. Wise beyond the years; twenty years old, but wise beyond the years.

    I’ve read through a few of your blogs, and I see God is at work; your mum and dad must be proud!

    I have three kids older than you, but struggling to find their way; if I could get them to think a bit like you.

    I’m of the same mindset as you, and I’ve had face those kinds of things all my life. When people see that you’re strong in the Lord, they tend to resent it. People don’t really have a problem with you; they have a problem with God! He’s the love and strength they see permeating within you!


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  5. Nice blog post, but I have a question.
    What if there’s someone in your life who is always on and off? I mean what if today the person is a very good and supportive friend, and the next, he or she is the one making you feel bad about yourself? And whenever you cut them off, they come back all nice and sweet that you won’t have the heart to do it again, what do you do?

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    1. Hi Scarlett😇❤After giving this much thought…..Here’s my two cents: Know what matters to you, personally, what you stand for, and what your values are. Don’t waste valuable time with people not adding to your growth. Be true to you. Your future self will thank you for this. Your destiny is important. ❤ God bless.💕

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  6. Thank you for your well-written posts – you’ve greatly encouraged me today. Trying to be successful with my blog without being true to myself and my God will never work. You were the voice I needed!

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  7. You are certainly very decisive for such a young age. I come from a very different background. I started to attend University at 17 and lived alone since then. In the former Soviet Union people were not allowed to have any kind of capitalistic goals, so one definitely gets used thinking that they are just average people. However, all my family was in strong opposition to the communist government, and that affected my early life a lot. We were not allowed to go abroad, to have good work positions, etc. I am 60 this summer, and I can see how different the young people are here. However, my life taught me that making long term plans can be done, but all my plans went down the pipe. All of them. I did not ever think I would live in Canada, it just happened. A bad accidents took a lot of years in recovery, and the I need surgeries again after 25 years.
    I have been always extremely honest and straightforward (Leo sign in dog’s year), but I can tell that nobody likes or appreciates that. Most people want to live pretending that everything is splendid, gorgeous and great until it isn’t. Quite honestly, truth is what most people do not want to hear, see or listen to.
    Even when it comes to blogging: I am sharing a lot of insight of first-hand medical knowledge on my lifeschool blog because I have access to to lots and lots of clinical trial and similar information that is not public because it has been more that 3 decades in medical writing. Do you think somebody reads it? No, nobody does. It always limits with “Like”. I find that society is very pretentious and very two-faced, very biased.

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  8. This is so true. I love the quotes throughout the post.
    5 years ago (this April) I cut out family members from my life. Its took a while to get through the emotions of doing so even though its what’s best for me, my marriage and family. My family has continuously harassed me, guilt tripped, accused my husband of abusing me… (I could keep going..) So sometimes I have to go through the process of emotions all over because whatever they are doing to intrude in my life because of their refusal to accept their status in it. Thanks for the added reminder that I am allowed to put myself first. I am allowed to be around healthy positive people. I am allowed to be healed!

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  9. I had just read this book “The People Factor” by Van Moody, a pastors perspective on relationships etc, and reading your post reminded me of the things he was saying. Totally agree with you ! Praying that all of us here are blessed with true, godly friendships.

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  10. I Agree about the being alone bit. We need to follow our own path. The one that spiritually nourishes and supports us in our inner beings. Sometimes it takes a LOT of courage to do that, especially in the face of jydgement of others. Goodpost

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      1. God bless you too. I want to read more of your stuff as and when I can. Being blind, it takes time. But I want to. Good luck with all your studies. Wow! Law! You are clever. I did theology. I do hope that you gain what you want in life. Smile. X

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