I lied and said I was busy. I was busy but not in a way most people understand. I was busy taking deeper breaths. I was busy silencing irrational thoughts. I was busy calming a racing heart. I was busy telling myself I am okay.

Sometimes this is my busy and I will not apologise for it. ~ B OAKMAN

This weekend was so so intense. I’m pretty much introverted and very sensitive too, so I tend to find busy environments like shopping malls rather overstimulating – so many people, so many noises, so much happening all at the same time (anyone else ever feel like that?!?๐Ÿ™‰) While it may be interesting and exciting, by the end of the day I feel absolutely depleted (hence the beach was much needed!) That said I feel fortunate to be able to take a little holiday hiatus.โžก1 week of filling my soul with love, laughter, good food, beach and sun.(and I couldn’t be more thrilled!)๐Ÿ˜‰

Self-care is sometimes the last thing we think about when we’re busy and have a lot on the go. The truth is anyone and everyone should set aside time for themselves. One of the best ways to energise ourselves is to take a break from it all, to regroup and get our minds right. You have to find what works for you.

The hardest part of taking a break for me, was admitting I *need* to take a break and I *deserve* to take a break. It’s a tale as old as time…..a classic. “I’m stressed because I study, and I study because I’m stressed” predictament. Whether it’s going for a walk, disconnecting from all media, sitting in silence in nature and letting yourself completely relax. Encourage yourself, support yourself and celebrate every little things about yourself.

The art of being an introvert has yet to be mastered in my world – but I strive to keep that perfect level of quiet, solo contentment on a day to day basis. Life, in all its uncertainty is wonderful. There is nothing lacklustre about it. Strive to be the person your future self will thank you for being. ‘You were given this life because you’re strong enough to live it.’ – unknown. Sometimes you have to remind yourself of the enormous capability you have to live, to thrive, to survive in this moment and the next. You were given this life. Own. Your. Life.

You are setting yourself up for your tomorrows today and if you think about it, you are living your life today that you have set up, all of your yesterday’s. Does that make sense. I hope it does!๐Ÿ˜‰

Now go on and LOVE yourself. God bless!

Blessings and loveโค๐Ÿ˜Š


217 thoughts on “OWN. YOUR. LIFE.

  1. I love the Oakman quote, this is so my life! It’s the same concept I have about ‘work’.

    People ask me all the time if I work. They ask because they don’t believe I do. If course I work, and tell them I do so.. But not in the sense they understand..

    I hope I can borrow your quote for my blog?
    Olive ๐Ÿ’‹๐Ÿ’‹๐Ÿ’‹

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  2. Taking care of oneself is so crucial for good health and well being but is one things thats easy to forget about or get to busy to take time out to do so. If you look at it as a โ€˜needโ€™ as you described, everyone would focus daily on it. Great read๐Ÿ˜„

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  3. a wonderful article thank you: I am not introverted but I think that’s exactly what creates the many problems that I have. The change that I want for my life can only work if I find out anyway and keep what belongs to my personality and v.a. which belongs to my heart. I can not paint a picture of myself in which I transform, I have now noticed. I need and love my children. I need time with friends. I also have to do something silly and I need trust.
    I hope that what I wish for is compatible with these needs.
    The Christmas week I will actually also consider as a break, spend time with my parents and children, time to think in peace …. I wish you all the time to relax and think.

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  4. I have heard that what you choose to do when you need to “recharge your batteries” is indicative of whether you’re an introvert or extrovert. If you’d rather curl up with a good book (or perhaps THE Good Book) then you’re likely an introvert. If you’d rather go to a noisy party with lots of loud music, chatter, and so on, you’re an extrovert. I would definitely chose the former although I am also very social and very much like people of all kinds. But I’d rather talk quietly with a few. I do like shopping at bookstores…but that’s about it. Going to malls … not so much. Anyway, keep up the writing! And, have a wonderful Christmas! — John

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    1. Hmmm, do you think there are only introvert or extrovert people? I would think I none of both. Iโ€˜ m comfortable and happy to be alone while working or doing some creative stuff. But I hate feeling lonely. I need people connected, people to care about, to cook for, to hug and to spend time. I do not go to parties, in pubs if there is a partner I can spend time with. But before staying all time alone I go out, meeting people, dancing, forgetting that I am alone. I do not like much to go to shopping malls, but Sometimes it is o.k. When I need something or the kids want to go.

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  6. Thank you so much for sharing this wonderful blog post. I completely agree with you- I feel that the hardest part is not the taking a break part but rather admitting that a break is needed. It could even be a five minute break to go take a walk but it is recognizing when a break is needed. Thank you so much once again for sharing! I look forward to reading more blog posts from you!

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  7. Personal hygeine, taking care of yourself, for me it is the first thing every day … Stabilizes, gives confidence, security. We start with our mind that comes first. That can with everything, with the physical, the problems and the diseases. With that energy we drive the rest of the day. Outgoing. For me they are states of mind, not personality. Stress, if we do not stop going badly. Mandatory stops NOT TO DO ANYTHING … one afternoon, day, several. The problems will be the same, but we face them in another way. Besides standing up provides perspective, it lets us see more things than quickly. Thanks for reading.๐Ÿ˜„โ˜€๏ธ

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  8. SAME! I am easily overstimulated and overwhelmed by too much noise, too many people, etc. etc.. Iโ€™ve just finished a chronic pain management class (I have fibromyalgia) and found it so validating that self-care is a legitimate need! Too often words of others have made me feel like Iโ€™m just not trying hard enough to Be Well, to Be Productive. Yet with self care I can be more well and more productive. Self-care is a necessary part of the Wellness package!

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  9. We all need our own breaks sometimes. I’ve been super drained from work lately and I keep on telling myself I deserve a break but I’m trying to find the time to pamper myself. Hope I can have it soon and thanks for sharing this! ๐Ÿ™‚

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  10. How true. Self-care is very hard for me as well. A friend recently reminded me of the airplane speech. How that if the airline looses oxygen you have to put your own oxygen mask on first, before you help others. Self-care is that principle in action. If you are taking care of yourself, you have more to share with those around you. Thank you for another wonderful and timely blog post. I needed to hear that today. -Jill

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  11. Hello,
    Returning once again to an excellent blog about life and perhaps overdoing a bit, ๐Ÿ™‚ well written!…
    You can add to it something I found on the internet;
    Dust if you must, but wouldn’t it be better to paint a picture or write a letter,
    Spend time with a friend, bake a cake or plant a seed,
    Ponder the difference between want and need?
    Dust if you must, but there’s not much time, with rivers to swim and mountains to climb,
    Music to hear, songs to sing and books to read,
    Friends to cherish and a life to lead.
    Dust if you must, but the world’s out there with the sun in your eyes, the wind in your hair,
    A flutter of snow, a shower of rain.
    As this day will not come around again.
    Dust if you must, but bear in mind,
    Old age will come and it’s not kind.
    And when you go — and go you must,
    You, yourself will make more dust!

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  12. I also are a private personโ€ฆ for a time I thought it were just me until one evening, I realized that in order for me to be outgoing and mingle with the masses, I would have to discard me and become one of them, something I refuse to doโ€ฆ and over time I found I could be quite happy in my private world… so while occasionally being out among the masses, I am quite comfortable be โ€œMEโ€.. ๐Ÿ™‚ and as I venture down the path, I follow my own advice; โ€œYesterday is a memory, cherish it. Tomorrow is a new adventure, eagerly await it. Today is a gift, greet it with a open heart and mind, enjoy and live the moment, for it will never come again.โ€ (Larry โ€œDutchโ€ Woller 6-24-2008)

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